When What You’re Seeking is NOT Seeking You

By Stephanie Deni

Let’s face it, we can’t always have what we want.  There will be times in your life when the person you desire simply does not desire you back.  When what you’re seeking is not seeking you and it can be really devastating and at times, quite difficult to get through and get over. Your mind takes control and begins to talk to you in a negative manner with thoughts of not being worthy enough of having someone you truly care about and then having that someone not reciprocating in the same way.


Before you go into a downward spiral, consider these options.

Be True to You:

First and foremost, you matter.  Did you hear me?  YOU MATTER!  Just because one person in this great, big world does not feel the same way towards you does not mean that you are insignificant. But, it may mean that you do need some healthy distance. One of the best things you can do is to create distance between you and the other person.  Constant reminders of someone who does not feel the same way about you will only crush your heart and continue the negative thoughts pouring in. Remove this person from your social media platforms (this way you can’t stalk them…because you know you want to). This will help with the urge to peek into their online life and what time they were last seen online. Also remove anything from your personal space that reminds you of this person. Photos, personal belongings etc. Either give it back or throw it away. This action of discarding might feel quite good and help you move on with your life.


Take Time for You:

Healing may be just what the doctor ordered. Consider treating yourself to a getaway.  No matter what your budget may be, you should be able to find a few days away somewhere suitable for you.  Get away with yourself somewhere so you can dive deep into you and release this person from your body, mind and soul.  It could give you a new perspective about yourself and where you want to go in your life. You may realize the person you need to be in a relationship with is YOU.  Get to know yourself again and this way when you’re ready and feeling amazing, the right person will be presented into your life and I can guarantee this person will be THAT MUCH MORE AMAZING than the one you have released.


Learn the Lesson(s):

Every relationship you encounter in your life is presented with lessons for you to learn.  You are both teacher and student to one another. Take reminders from the relationship or person and learn the lesson so you can move on and be even better for yourself. Then consider writing down what you want from a person in a relationship and what you want from the relationship itself.

Relationships can be a beautiful thing when it’s right…when what you’re seeking IS seeking you, it’s a wonderful feeling.  Really knowing yourself and what you want is a great place to be and therefore will allow you to find the next and (hopefully) last relationship that will last you a lifetime.

I’m Stephanie, please connect with me if you have any questions concerning your relationships or lack thereof, soulmates, twin flames, you name it. I’m here to help you along your Earth plane journey.


Stephanie is a Psychic Advisor with PsychicTxt. She is also a Certified Reiki Master Practitioner and a Certified Angel Intuitive Healer. If you having a tough time moving on from a failed relationship or Feel down about yourself after a recent difficult connection, reach out directly to her using our PsychicTxt App. She can look into your past relationships and provide you with the guidance you need today for a better future.