By Jeremy Scott Lambert “When you have a choice to make and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” ~William James I have been single for most of my life; sometimes it would seem by choice, and sometimes not. In that time, I have learned and experienced a lot. Some of the things I…

By Ohana Nery “My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we’re living with right now.” ~Byron Katie I never had a good relationship with my father when I was younger. Sometimes he expressed his opinions in a rude way, sounding more like an attack than advice. Many times he apologized after…

By Celestine Chua Dear Celes, I don’t remember how I found you and your blog. What I remember is how touched I felt when I read your series “How to Move On from a Heartbreak.” At that time I was in a similar ambiguous romantic-yet-not-in-a-relationship position that you were in with G, and successfully moved on from it….

By Melissa Pennel “Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” ~Lord Alfred Tennyson I’ve always loved relationships—the euphoria of early romance, the comfort of built intimacy, and the experience of adventuring through life with someone else. While there are some pretty snazzy parts of being single, I was a…

By: Advisor Adeena Stage One- Desire To Find Each Other  This is the first stage. You may have experienced bad relationship after bad relationship, struggling to understand why you have not found happiness with “The One” that doesn’t yet exist in your life. You wonder if there is better out there you wonder when you…

By Marwan Jamal “Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown You can`t take it anymore. Life’s getting boring, you fight over everything, your relationship has lost its spark, and you can’t look each other in the eye without feeling regret. Many marriages and relationships get…

By Hannah Brooks “By letting our deep longing for love and connectedness be exposed…[we are] opening up the channel through which love can enter.” ~John Welwood When we feel disconnected from our romantic partner what we often want most is to genuinely feel their love again, to feel connected. And yet, it can be so difficult to…

By Aska Kolton “Single is no longer a lack of options, but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.” ~Mandy Hale In our society, being single is still heavily stigmatized. Being single is…

By Renée Suzanne “Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.” ~Unknown I used to think that true love should be passionate and intense. When someone broke up with me or treated me poorly, I’d imagine that he really didn’t mean it. Surely he was really a good person and truly loved me, but was…

By Holly L. Pender “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~Robert Brault Valentine’s Day has never been a big deal to me. It always felt commercialized, so forced. I’ve never felt I needed Hallmark to remind me to do something special for my husband,…

By Angela Lois “Some people come into your life for a reason, some a season, and some a lifetime. However long it was, be thankful for the gifts you received from them.” ~Unknown When I first met him, we instantly clicked. We became fast friends aided by the fact that I was dealing with my father’s death and he was by my side…

By Laura Tong “Be there. Be open. Be honest. Be kind. Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive. This is what it means to love.” ~Lori Deschene They say your heart pounds when you’re in love. But the very idea of opening up and letting love in can bring on the wrong kind of…

By Lauren Madden Sometimes we need to journey into the deepest, darkest, scariest, most painful places inside in order to reach the next level. This is what happened to me earlier this year. When I was younger, I was in an abusive relationship that created a lot of stories in my head. These stories became beliefs…

By Lori Deschene “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu A little over a decade ago I thought I was going to marry my college sweetheart and become a young bride, which made it all the more devastating when happily ever after didn’t pan out. When…

By Tiffaney Kennedy “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” ~Marilyn Monroe Why does it have to hurt so badly? You’re so in love, but your relationship has become toxic. It simply can’t continue. Night after sleepless night, you lie awake replaying the fights in your head. You can’t understand why your partner…

By Holly Lochinger “The harder you fight to hold onto specific assumptions, the more likely there’s gold in letting them go.” ~John Seely Brown It was Christmas night and I was ecstatic. He would be there any minute. I touched up my gloss and gave myself a quick once over in the hallway mirror. Despite having…

By Joel Almeida “We are a work in progress with a lifetime contract.” ~Phyllis Koss The priest at our wedding advised us, “It’s not enough to say, ‘I want to marry you’ just today. You’ve got to be able to say that every day.” Problems and challenges in life can be like the wind, which blows…

By Katy Saer “Watch for big problems. They disguise big opportunities.” ~Ritu Ghatourey After many years of being the “dumper” in the relationship, I then spent many years being the “dumpee.” Even after I had worked through all of that karma that I had instilled upon myself, when it came time for my last breakup, it was finally…

By Evie Drake “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put it back together.” ~Unknown Human beings are genetically programmed to desire love. Embraces are as important to us as food and water. Perhaps that’s why when we find someone—the wrong someone—we’re often too blind to see it. We…

By: Sarah E. Miller Let’s get this out of the way first: Ghosting is crappy etiquette. There’s no real, concrete excuse for it, except perhaps pure, unadulterated laziness with a touch of cruelty. We take for granted how much technology has changed the way we interact with people. We are humans first, but it seems we…