Resolutions and Changes for 2020

So, here we are. Again. It is almost the New Year, and this time it’s a big year ahead, it’s 2020.  This is a leap year as well so we have one extra day to focus and work on making changes in our lives!  Do you want to know what changes to make, or what area of your life needs help with doing things differently?  I am available this week to help you jump into the new year with ideas and a plan, a real plan for change.

Contact me inapp – send me over your question and let’s get you ready for 2020!

~Amee

Here is an excerpt from an article over at Tiny Buddha that I came across which talks about Resolutions and why they don’t work, but rather how to make changes that last.

“I can affect change by transforming the only thing that I ever had control over in the first place and that is myself.” ~Deepak Chopra

As the New Year quickly approaches, many of us spend time in review and reflection of the past year’s events and initiate strategic planning for the upcoming year.

We create and contemplate lists of resolutions, often featuring some of the same goals from the previous year. But we convince ourselves that this is going to be the year for change and transformation.

So, on January 1st, we arise, excited and committed to our new or repeated goals of exercising regularly, eating healthy, waking up earlier, taking a new class, searching for a new job and career, saving money, releasing bad habits, and the list goes on and on.

Yet, by Martin Luther King Jr. Day, the thrill and fervor have dwindled, and by mid-year our resolutions have fallen by the wayside—and our lives look exactly as they did the previous year.

For several years, I was painfully stuck in my own life. I desperately sought change, but did not know how to transition myself out of a city that had been home for eighteen years.

Although I decided each year that this would be my last year living in New York and that I would find my purpose and calling, each year I found myself renewing my lease and still selling real estate.

I became increasingly dissatisfied with my life, constantly yearning for the things and people I thought would make me happy.

But, nearly four years ago, I made the most important decision of my life: to authentically grow and change myself and my life from the inside out.

Once I began the internal work to create peace and change within myself, through a self-taught meditation and gratitude practice, the external landscape of my life began to slowly change.

I am now happily living on a paradise island and doing work that fulfills my heart, my life, and my purpose.

Why Resolutions Don’t Work and Intentions Do

Wouldn’t it be great if writing our resolutions also gave us the power, discipline, and determination to achieve our goals? Well, unfortunately it doesn’t. Our commitment to our resolutions can fade as quickly as the ink fades from the paper.

Resolutions do not work for us because more often than not, they include making changes to behavior and objects that exist outside of us. Until we change what’s on the inside, we cannot change what’s on the outside.

Eventually, we will go back to making the same choices, whether consciously or unconsciously. As the late, sage spiritual teacher, Dr. Wayne Dyer often quoted, “When you squeeze an orange you get orange juice because that’s what’s inside of you.”

If there’s anger, fear, low self-worth, jealousy, resentment, or other negative beliefs inside of us, even if we attempt to change the skin to our fruit, shine and polish it, or plant and grow it in a different location, what comes out of will still be what’s on the inside.

A resolution will never create a lasting transformation if we don’t change the root and inside of our fruit (our heart).

Even the word itself, “resolution,” implies “a firm decision to do or not do something, to be absolutely resolute.” This allows no fluidity or flexibility.

When we lovingly embrace and accept ourselves, focus our attention on what we want instead of what we don’t want, and set fluid intentions for the New Year, we are more likely to naturally flow toward choices that are aligned with our goals and achieve our desired results.

Read more here at Tiny Buddha….

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